For me, porn movies were really key to discovering what I like and what turns me on. As a woman who watches porn, I like it. I can hardly ever go more than a ten minute clip without having an orgasm. But that was not always the case. For a long time I did not understand my pleasure or what could bring me to orgasm.
When I became sexually active, it was only because I thought that was what was expected of me. I never considered my pleasure the important part. At 21, I started actually enjoying sex for the first time and faced an important dilemma – could I continue to have sex the way I thought men would like best, or could I figure out what I wanted in bed and learn to really enjoy sex.
I decided on the second option and thank God I did, because four years later, I can say – now I am sexually satisfied, experienced and very confident in bed. And porn movies have a lot of credit for that.
Make porn work to your advantage
Figuring out what interests you sexually by watching porn is actually pretty easy. There are only a few steps, and none of them are difficult or complicated. The only downside to using porn to personalize your sex life is that it can take some time to figure out. There are many different people and all those people have different movements and moves. Finding the ideal ones for you can take some time and require a lot of research!
But the research is worth the reward, so here are some easy steps…
Open your mind!
Seriously. Some people like strange things (strange maybe to you, but to the one who practices them quite standard and normal) or some non-traditional things. We must mention that there is no room for condemnation here. It's just that some things are either for you or they aren't. You either like them or you don't.
If you use porn to discover your fantasies – this process can show you for example that you really like anal sex, although before you may have thought that it was not for you. We often find that things we once thought were "taboo" (or still think!) actually really turn us on and we like them. Or you will realize that you want to use sex toys. And that's totally fine! It doesn't say anything about you as a person or your character, and you can actually change your mind about what you're comfortable with. Also keep in mind, it can be interesting to explore some things that you don't completely understand and can't figure out why someone does and likes. Sometimes you don't have to know why something excites you to embrace it!
Where to start?
Start with a category that resonates with you and that you know intrigues you. Watch a few videos, see if anything catches your eye in terms of topics, then branch out into that category or a new concept that excites you. Once you get comfortable with that, pick some common topics and move on to another category that you are curious about. Keep exploring related concepts until you start to find the specific categories that fit you!
Know/learn your limits:
If you find something you really don't like, you don't have to keep trying. It's okay and completely natural to find things that don't excite you, or even the opposite. Knowing what you don't like helps you improve your search and get you closer to the things you love!
Use the options!
Many sites have options to search by topic, keywords, channels, specific artists, and even porn that appeals to certain groups, such as what's popular with women. These options can help you find the things you really want and more importantly narrow your search! If you happen to pick a video you're not happy with, always search related videos first before doing a whole new search. It works about 90% of the time.
Keep trying!
When using porn to discover your fantasies takes time. The things we like can change, they can turn out to be something we don't like at all, or they can simply be outdated and hard to understand. Don't be discouraged, we promise you will find the category for you!
Communicate:
Once you find something you like, you can share the experience with your partner if you want (or, keep it on the shelf for a future partnership!) When you start new sexual relationships you can send your partner links to porn videos that you like. like, so you can see what the other person likes too. Not only is it hot, but you can also learn something new and find things in common with potential partners.
Porn can be your friend if you let it and it can teach you what you want. Your sex life is just that, YOUR sex life! Go ahead and explore, and I wish you speed and efficiency in finding what excites you!
Personally, I just want the whole world to have an orgasm (that's my strategy for world peace). Good luck and happy searching!