A beginner's guide
When it comes to foreplay it is much more than just preparation for sex. It's about creating a deep connection with yourself and your partner. It's about exploring the many ways our bodies can enjoy pleasure. It is often not an appetizer, but a main course for many!
There are endless foreplay ideas that can take your game to new levels. All this by simply exploring new sensations and desires with your partner. If you're just learning how to give oral pleasure, you might want to incorporate some of those techniques into your game. Or maybe you're wondering how to improve your game with new techniques or what the best foreplay looks like!
Here's how you can make foreplay something you and your partner crave every time.
Try it yourself
If you want to be comfortable and enjoy yourself during foreplay, you have to be comfortable with yourself. That is a fact. This means touching yourself. But really touch yourself. There are even benefits to masturbation that you can actually enjoy if you let yourself.
Just start with a gentle touch, see how you feel, then go from there. If you like this, you can do this as a foreplay method. There's something sexy about touching yourself, isn't there? If you're not sure what you can do to your partner, think about what you can do to yourself to turn your partner on.
Sexy underwear
Underwear that helps you feel super sexy and excited can go a long way if you're unsure or uncomfortable about foreplay. Sexy thong corsets, sets sexy lingerie and the like will certainly have an impact and increase your excitement even before you reach the bedroom or between the sheets.
Buy something special from your favorite lingerie store and show it off to your partner. Or simply look at your reflection in the mirror to realize what a seductress you are. You will be surprised how much it is enough for your partner to see you in something so skimpy to turn him on and yourself.
Use erotic props
If you want to speed things up a bit, consider sensation enhancing props. There are a variety of adult toys, from the type of massage oils, feathers, sensual bath bombs, to something different like handcuffs, fights, eye masks. You can bring all these props into the bedroom to enhance your sensations and heighten anticipation.
Please take a moment to browse the website for toys for adults to see what piques your interest and then go from there.
Practice
They say repetition is the mother of knowledge, and your partner will be more than happy to help you if you need help. If there is something you want to try, tell your partner. If it doesn't work, move on. There is no shame in that!
For many, for example, the idea of sucking toes and rubbing feet creates a huge thrill, and there are so many ways you can explore this common fetish. Foreplay doesn't have to start in the bedroom. Try sending your partner raunchy pictures while he's at work to get him excited, so when he wakes up you can get straight to the point.
Take sensual lessons
Fitness and dance studios are popular here too, so grab some girlfriends and take a pole dancing class. These classes are designed for beginners and may be enough to give you the confidence you need. Even if you don't use the moves in the bedroom, simply getting in touch with the sensuality of your body can help you feel like a sexy cat when you slide on the bed.
Do a little research
As mentioned above, sometimes hesitation with foreplay comes from a lack of knowledge. If you really don't know what to do, do some research. If you're uncomfortable with something you or your partner enjoys, such as role-playing, look into the topic further.
There is always more information to help you learn exactly what to do. Also to find other people who enjoy similar activities. Sometimes just knowing you have nothing to be ashamed of is enough to make you feel more comfortable with the act itself.
Talk to your partner
It may not sound like a conversation you would enjoy, but communication with your partner is always key. Not sure what type of foreplay will interest you or your partner? Just talk to him about it. Express your interests. This way, you can find out what they like and exactly how they like it.
You can also talk about your likes and dislikes to make sure you're both on the same page. When you communicate openly about your thoughts and fears in the bedroom, you will have a more pleasant and confident experience.
For the end…
Foreplay is meant to be exciting, pleasurable, and build anticipation and feeling. It's an opportunity to explore your desires (and your partner's) and your bodies while heightening all of your senses. There's really nothing to be afraid of in foreplay sex – just saying you want to try something and give it your all can be unrealistically sexy for your partner.