Sex toys are fun first and foremost… we all know this. But they can play so many different roles in our lives – like for single people or couples, or even group situations if that's something you're into. 🙂 We here at Love Guru have many customers who like to use sex toys with their partners but also have toys they keep for themselves, so we thought this was something worth writing about.
Why are sex toys so important?
Sex toys help you understand your sexual desires.
The best way to improve your sex life is not necessarily to find many sexual partners, but to understand your own body and sexual desires. When you explore your body, you understand the best way to release yourself. You discover kinks and erogenous zones that might otherwise remain buried. And sex toys are crucial in your journey to sexual awakening and discovery.
Armed with self-knowledge, you can be a more sexually confident person. You can confidently seek pleasure from your sexual partners instead of just fulfilling their whims and desires. And most importantly, learning to enjoy your body without a sexual partner gives you the confidence to settle for nothing but the best. People who use sex toys generally have better orgasms and report better satisfaction with their sex lives.
Something private
While our sex lives often involve others, there are times when we are the only ones who can get it right. It seems to be the same with certain toys. Having a toy that is really just for you when you want to play is perfectly fine. This is not standard and acceptable only for women, there are toys that men have that can be shared but are nice to have as a personal toy.
Sex toys that women want to keep to themselves
It seems that our good friend, the clitoral sucker is a favorite for solo play. This makes sense in a way. It's probably the only toy on the market that a man can't actually use on himself… although you might have other ideas reading this. 🙂 It's also quite an intense sex toy and perfect for a quick orgasm when you're short on time. Suction cups are also quite small and easy to carry!
We also hear from our customers that the more realistic look and feel of dildo и vibrators is something some women like to keep for solo play. They can be great for those moments when only imagination will do and can work quite well when you let your imagination take the wheel!
But something we can't help but mention is the mighty rabbit! While this vibrator is fantastic for use in foreplay, it's also something that many women prefer to keep to themselves. Rabbit Vibrators are really amazing and they really hit the spot, much like clit suction cups...they work so well for solo play, but they are often used as a couple. They are incredibly effective in both scenarios.
Sex toys that men want to keep to themselves
Sex toys for men are a whole different category… For many guys, a sex toy is very new and can cause some shyness. It's strange that women using toys is considered completely normal, but some people feel that it's not the same for guys!
The masturbators и penis pumps are the main private toys for guys. They can bring a level of pleasure that can only be felt with penetrative or oral sex, so they often relax and indulge only when no one else is involved. There is an element of replacing the one you are with so often, so these toys work as "instead" not "as well".
Prostate toys can also be kept for solo play, although they work quite well in a dual situation. Also, anal play for men can be something they are shy about, which is why the ever-popular vibrators and massagers for the prostate tend to be private toys.
Why personal and private?
It's really important to remember that private is okay, and having a partner who keeps a thing or two to themselves is healthy. While sharing is great, we all need the space, things and time we have as individuals. It can even be a little difficult to accept that partners experience sexual pleasure without you, but they can, do and should be encouraged. It can also be a lot of fun to suddenly bring one of the private collection toys into the partnership as a surprise!
Maintenance and hygiene
It is worth noting that when the fun is over, it is very important to maintain your sex toys, as well as for personal hygiene, and this alone will extend their lifespan. Here are some useful tips on how to easily maintain the hygiene of your personal and private sex toys.
Rinse the toy with water or wipe the surface of the toy with a damp paper towel or washcloth to remove surface debris. Then apply liquid soap directly to the toy and clean it, if you wash it in the sink, or wipe it again with a damp cloth and some liquid soap.
If the toy has grooves or crevices that trap debris, use a soft-bristled toothbrush to remove any debris. Then rinse or wipe the toy until it is completely clean, using plain water.
Place the clean toy on a clean cloth and let it air dry. Experts say that air drying is best for most toys to avoid the fibers sticking to the toy and to give it time to fully dry all the nooks and crannies." She also recommends allowing battery-operated toys to dry with the battery case open.
A note about sex toy cleaning sprays and wipes: There are a number of products marketed specifically for cleaning sex toys, but in most cases plain soap and water are just as good. "The sprays wipes can also be handy, but most should be rinsed just in case.