Let's start with the question - is there anyone who doesn't like good sex? Considering that Google also has a huge number of search results on how to have a better sex life, the answer is definitely NO. But if we had to sum up how to have a better sex life in one word, that word would simply be communication. But let's go a little deeper into the topic.
What you get from good communication - information and insights, and what you get from that information and insights - understanding.
It's not always easy to talk about your sex life. For some people, talking about sex is still a taboo topic, but in this modern society we live in, it shouldn't be, it's all about your personal pleasure, so we'll try to help you relax so that you can more easily start a conversation with your partner.
There are three main points you must focus on, which are communication BEFORE sex, DURING sex, and AFTER sex. At the end of this text you will also find some suggestions and tips on how best to start talking to your partner about improving your sex life.
Find out exactly what you want
One of the key things you must know is that for a great sexual experience you need to know yourself, and know what works for you and what doesn't. When you know that, it is much easier to present it to your partner.
Ask yourself questions, be curious and touch yourself. It's the only way to find out what really makes you feel good and makes you happy.
One of the main tips we can give you is that when you communicate with your partner, be clear and specific so that your partner can easily fulfill your ideas and wishes. Sometimes it can be difficult to express exactly what you want, but until they invent a mind-reading machine, concrete communication is the only way to get the satisfaction you want. For example, if you say to your partner, "I want you to spend more time stimulating my nipples." How much more? When? How?
These are the questions to which if you have an answer, your partner will be able to provide you with the satisfaction that you desire and deserve.
Communication BEFORE sex
When you are ready to talk to your partner about sex, our recommendation is to have that conversation outside the bedroom. It may sound unusual, but when discussing your sex life, it is best to be in an environment that does not associate you with sex.
This rule is also recommended when you want to have sex with a new partner. It's the best way to find out how to give him unforgettable pleasure.
While it may seem tempting to lie next to each other and whisper softly to each other, it can only be a distraction. On the other hand, it is not recommended to start such a conversation right after sex because you will be tired.
That's why it's important to be focused on the conversation before you start, and leave enough time for the conversation. Also, when discussing sex, keep these two things in mind.
1. Sensitivity
Whether you're with a partner you've been with for a long time and want to bring freshness to your sex life, or you have a new partner you don't know well enough yet, sex is always a sensitive topic. Make sure you are open and direct, tell your partner what you like and what else he could do to please you.
2. Listen and ask questions
When it is your partner's turn to speak, you must be interested and curious. Listen carefully to what he tells you and ask him as many questions as possible. Are there any specific requirements? Does he want to try something new? What are his fantasies? What can you do to meet his needs?
Communication during sex
There are different ways to most easily communicate during sex, but most of the time you don't even need to use words. Always pay attention to your partner's body language, but also use your own to show them how you feel in that moment. Your sighs, sounds of pleasure, kisses, smiles and eye contact are great ways to let him know you're enjoying yourself. The goal is to express yourself in a way that your partner will understand your needs and be able to fully satisfy them.
Talking about sex and expressing sexual desires comes naturally and easily to some people, but not to all. That's why it's important to start somewhere. For example, start an honest conversation by emphasizing the positive over the negative with phrases like "I kind of like this" instead of "I don't like it when you do this."
This will help both of you feel more comfortable talking about sex, making it easier for you to express your desires and fantasies, which would create an open dialogue between you and your partner.
Communication AFTER sex
The next step may not be as sexy as the previous one, but it may still be for your relationship. After sex, you need to talk about the whole experience.
It's not about judging or agreeing what you should do better for next time. It's about saying what you think was nice and put you in a better mood. Openly tell your partner what you liked and would like to do again, but also tell them what you did not like and would not like to do again.
The point is to talk. It doesn't have to be right after sex, when you're tired and want to sleep. Feel free to text your partner the next day, or leave a note with breakfast the next morning.
How to start?
To help you start open communication with your partner about your sex life, here are some ideas.
Massage and touches
Create a romantic atmosphere and take off your partner's shirt. Get ready for sensual massage. Take massage oil, apply it on your hands and then start gently touching the partner. For a more sensual experience, you can also use a blindfold or a feather for sensual foreplay.
It is often easier to talk about more sensitive topics when there is no direct eye contact. So, when both of you are already relaxed you can start a conversation.
Erotic games for adults
No matter how long you've been in a relationship, having an open conversation about what you want sexually is sometimes awkward. That's why they are here sex games. There are different types of sex games that will both help you feel more relaxed in front of your partner, and bring you unforgettable fun.
For example, you can play a sex card game. The cards have a variety of questions, ideas, suggestions and activities that can help you start communication.
A set of sex toys for couples
There are various types sets for couples which can help you start open communication with your partner. In fact, the conversation starts when you have to decide which set you would choose, and then continues when you look at the sex toys in that set together. After you've tried a particular sex toy, it's best to talk about how you feel while using it and whether that toy can improve your sex life.
Sex toys for couples
The best topic to start a conversation about sex is sex toys. As with sets, the conversation starts when you decide what sex toy to buy. Sometimes this can be a tricky situation, but it's still worth it because sex toys are an investment in your sexual health and life.
There are many toys that are recommended for couples, such as penis rings that give pleasure to both partners. There are also vibrators for couples. It's up to you to choose what would be best and how you want to spice up sex with your partner.
When you start talking about including sex toys in your life, you'll find that you suddenly start communicating more honestly and openly. You will be more open to new exciting experiences, which will bring your sex life to another level.
Sex is better when you talk about it openly.
Enjoy!