Although some may say it is our original sexuality – it is one of the formative experiences in learning about our bodies. And there is still shame and stigma around this relationship with yourself. But it's actually one of the most generous acts of self-care you can give yourself! Whether you're in a relationship or not, solo sex and masturbation is one of the best ways to learn to discover and explore your pleasure. And now you're probably wondering how to have better solo sex? Well, we tried to find the answer to that. So let's begin…
Why should you masturbate?
Life is stressful! One could say that we are in the midst of inflation, upcoming elections and other uncertainties. Such developments can cause a mild outburst of anxiety. We are all dealing with stressors and at the same time staying at home more and more. You might feel like this is a frivolous time to get to know yourself, but you'd be wrong. As the experts would say, "Your body is yours and you have the power to give yourself the soothing or stimulating touch you desire."
The main benefits of solo sex
The physical, mental and emotional benefits of masturbation cannot be denied. When you have an orgasm, your body releases prolactin (the relaxation hormone) and serotonin (the happiness hormone).
These hormones are associated with reduced anxiety, increased circulation and blood flow, and a sense of calm. While still being studied, many women have found that masturbating helps reduce tension and enable better sleep.
Masturbation helps reduce shame too! While challenging stigma and sex-negative ideas, masturbation allows us to focus strictly on ourselves. It is a place and time that exists only for us.
Tips for a great masturbation session:
Set the mood:
The brain is our largest sexual organ. If your head is spinning with thoughts and events of the day, it will be really challenging to listen to what your body wants.
Get into a good mental state by:
Attention – doing a quick meditation to clear your head works WONDERS. Don't skip this step to see the difference for yourself.
Take a bath – a hot shower always helps. And if you're feeling fancy, fill the tub and add some essential oils or bubbles. Don't forget that you deserve it.
Choose a sexy playlist - put together a playlist that makes you feel sexy - good and sexy music will easily put you in a good mood.
Start with sensual before sexual
Before going straight to the "act", we recommend a little sensual foreplay with yourself. Think of this as an exploration of your body. No shame, no negative thoughts – just full appreciation of the beautiful person that you are. Start with soft and gentle strokes, touching over the clothes. Continue massaging your neck and shoulders. Allow yourself to surrender, connect with yourself and feel good. Making noises is recommended (take our word for it).
Play an erotic channel or a porn movie
It always helps to have a little support to cheer you up. And when you feel like listening more than watching, there are now apps that offer sexy audio stories and "wellness sessions" to fuel your erotic imagination. Designed with women in mind, it's porn but with really hot radio voices.
If you are a more visual person, sometimes we start by visualizing fantasies or past experiences that excited us. If you need something more to excite you, play a porn movie.
Masturbation with sex toys
Toys are a great way to discover what sensations and vibrations you like. The choice and variety can be overwhelming. So below are some of our favorite toys for solo play:
Vibrators:
If you are looking for something more than just a vibrator, Action – No. Three is what you need in life. This vibrator features:
7 rotary motion functions: this movement is concentrated on the tip of the vibrator, ideal for stimulation in your erogenous zones.
7 clitoris stimulation functions: placed on the wheel that will simulate oral sex, which is the closest to being with your partner.
360º Rotating Balls: these balls are strategically placed under the rotation system to create an explosive combination. They will start working when you turn on the rotation.
USB rechargeable and waterproof, it has a minimal noise level of just 50 dB and is made with the softest silicone on the market.
Massagers:
This powerful double sided vibrator and massager will allow you to do that in a very short time. The irreplaceable Lodi with its large, rounded head and flexible neck, it will definitely introduce you to your body in a much more exotic and different way than before. Its 100% water resistance, thanks to the medical silicone with which it is covered, allows you to get excited even in the bathroom, in the shower or in the bathtub.
Allow yourself the fun you've always dreamed of with the 10 vibration modes that will allow you a sensual sexy game, and its silence will promise you that "What happens in your room - stays in your room"
Clitoral stimulators:
This one Satisfyer – Next Gen Clitoral Stimulator it has 11 vibration modes that will make you experience an explosive climax. With the new interface with two +/- buttons, you can increase and decrease the vibration intensity to enjoy the moment as you feel. The buttons have a light that is discreet. It is safe for the body and has silicone that does not harm the skin. The head is optimized to wrap the clitoris in an amazing way that makes you forget about the stress of everyday life.
This model is very quiet and waterproof so you can enjoy the bath. Thanks to its high-quality materials, it is a real pleasure.
Masturbate with lubricants
Lubricants are not just reserved for pleasure with a partner. You too can experience the benefits of extra lubrication and gliding (especially when combined with a toy). As with toys, here you have variety: silicone, water, hybrid, jelly and CBD). If you are new to the world of lubricants, be sure to read ours a beginner's guide.
Start masturbating!
Now that you're armed with all the information and tools you'll need to have better solo sex, go forth, enjoy, and discover yourself. Remember, there is no "right" way to do this. Masturbation looks different for everyone, as it should. In the midst of all the current chaos, actually touching yourself is the best act of self-love you can give.